Nice music with some good laugh for Friday

I had posted this on my Chinese blog yesterday.

I like the song, it's one of those old 90s British pop song, "I'm Too Sexy" by Right Said Fred and it goes really well with the montage of the falling models.

It's really funny so I thought I maybe I should post it here for those of you, who couldn't read Chinese.



Well, I know it's bad to laugh at others.

However come to think of it, it's a good lesson for us to reflect on our own self. If you fall down, you should just stand up again and move on.

Just like the models when they fell before so many pairs of eyes, there is only one thing they can/should do is to just stand up and walk on.

So if next time if you were to fall down clumsily in front of many eyes, just think of them, stand up, put on a smile and walk on. Sound too easy huh?

A voter and an agent

Never been this interested and involved in election. For the first time I was a voter, a polling agent and a counting agent at my polling station.

It was quite an experience.

When your PC cannot display Chinese...

Feel really sad and angry as I can't update my Chinese blog or read my regular Chinese blogs now. It's so sad.

DH's friend helped to install the Window XP with his Service Pack 2 our PC. Somehow the Chinese input was left out. As a result, all Chinese displays end like this: ??????????????...

Guess I have to go and buy one since I'm really desperate, and our Service Pack 1 just doesn't work at all. *slap forehead*

Back to work soon...

In about 2 weeks plus, I will have to go back to work.

After a long break like this, since 23 Oct, I simply don't feel like going back to work. Not because I'm lazy. Instead I would like to spend more time with the two kids, especially Natalie. I haven't been spending enough time with her since the day Max was born.

I know she misses me, and I could feel that she is upset that I neglected her, and she ignores me sometimes, just to let me know that she's upset. However at times she wakes and cries for me at night, since these days she's sleeping at my in-laws'. Really feel sorry for her. And I miss her too.

Of course now that she's and my MIL again is so scared that she would pass the flu virus to baby Max. She ask me to stay upstair with Max.

I'm really upset that why all thse flu things have to happen now.

Well, think of the bright side, hopefully the flu will go off completely soon so when I go back to work, I'll be healthy and fit, as I still need to take care of Max till late night and get up early the next morning.

Actually I'm thinking to extend prehaps a week or two. If possible few months unpaid, which is unlikely.

Well, I certainly can't quit, or DH has to carry the burden on his own. Seven mouths to feed on one income.

Really pray hard that something will work out. Just one opportunity...

When I grow old...

I can still clearly remember that when I was in my teenage years, my parents always reminded us not to abandon when they get old. At that time, I didn't understand their worries.

But as I grew up, I began to understand and see their worries from a different perspective. I started to remind myself, that I won't become of what they worried I would. Meanwhile I always told myself that when I'm in golden years, I want to be independent, both financially and physically. Hence, I don't have to depend on my children so much. And I started planning for myself, in case I live too long.

For a start, be it for yourself, or your old aged parents, you can check out this nursing site for old aged, bettercaring.com. They specialize in answering questions about old age caring issues, such as finding to the right nursing homes, tips for one who prefer to stay at their own home, like my dad, how to take care your health, where to find financial support and other related factsheets.

They also provide news articles and forum for you to read up and participate. By reading more, it helps you understand how to handle caring issues better. Also, through the forum, by linking yourself to community, it will open you up and help you to realize that that they are not alone.

I alaways believe in staring young, be it health issues, financial planning or other matter. Knowledge and preparation overcome fear and worries.

Money not enough?

Many times I heard from hubby that in his office, there are still some staffs taking a minimum salary of 600 to 700 bucks home every month. On top of that, they have some overtimes and some little incentives. But is it enough for a household? I always wonder. Even for hubby and I, who earn decent income, there are months when money is just barely enough when there are extra bills like insurance renewals, road tax renewals and so on.

Besides, prices of things have inflated little by little. For instance the price of every loaf of bread has gone up about 30 cent, due to the price hike of crude oil.

Therefore, most of these staffs have resort to either personal loan or credit cards, for some emergency cash to get them through each month. However, some of these loans take days up to week for approval, for financial background check and so on. The process requires lots of running around and is time consuming, and in the end they might not even get their loan approved.

But with Payday Loan Quotes, a one-stop financial matching service, these people will have easier way of getting suitable no fax payday loans, with fast approval. As fast as in 24 hours. There is no minimum credit requirement and anyone can apply. However, one has to bear in mind that loan approval is not always guaranteed.

All one needs to do is to fill up one simple form online with some basic information, provide a reference's details and submit. The system will match one's payday loan with the lenders database immediately, based on interest rate that fits one's financial profile. No matching fee charges and all the information given is strictly private and confidential. So no worries.

The moment a match is found, the lender will contact the borrower via online or phone. Once the loan is approved, the cash will be banked into the borrower's respective bank account. It is that fast and efficient.

My inner fears

Some time back I read about this inner fear thing in Mumsgather. It reminded me of my own.

I guess everyone has some kind of inner fears.

As for me, I've been having this fear of traveling long distance, I mean driving,(not including going for holiday overseas) and driving alone. I'm not sure why and forgot when it started. But I guess it's due to kiasi (afraid of dying in Hokkien) factor.

However my mom passing due to road accident, has deepened my fear. On top of that, I also begin to fear of losing someone close to me again. That's why I don't having my husband traveling outstations, which I had no problem previously.

And every day I flip open the newspaper, I see many road accident reports. They made me paranoid and all the negative possibilities begin to play in my mind.

Frankly I'm not a pessimistic character, but why do I have this kind of negative thought and fear in me. Is it because I'm already mom? Or is it because of something else? I'm still not sure. I used to ask my psychiatrist about it. He explained that it's because my grief over my mom's passing. I just have to think positive and it'll slowly go away. I certainly hope so.

And they said Love can outcast Fear.

How about you? Do have any inner fears that you would like to share?

Bets in life

There's saying; "In life there are only two things that are guaranteed, death and tax."

It's true life is unpredictable and full of uncertainties. There are times when we try our luck and take the best bet out of life.

For example, there are many people who loves to try their luck and bet on anything in the world to win something, wealth or others, in return.

Some people are in for sport games like WorldCup, EuroCup, Olympics Games, NBA Basketball and so on, while others bet on lotto, numbers, jackpots, stock market and so on. All these betting games can now be found on bet365. It offers different kinds of online betting services, in all kinds of sport games, poker, some interactive games and so on. One just needs to sign up for an account to start the ball rolling.They provides live scores and stats to enhance user experience. Also, their range of services are now extended to mobile phone users.

In life we can't run away from betting.

As for me, I'm not into money betting games, as I believe controlling things myself such as proper investments with proper research.

However, there are something I can't control. For instance, my birth options, I still don't know whether I will end up having another c-section or natural birth. But I'm putting my bet on having natural birth even though my gynae has told my chance of having c-sec is higher than those who had never had a c-sec before. Also, my chance of having complications via natural birth is also higher, as my uterine may rupture during the birth. Since she allows me to try for natural birth, I'll go for it.

I can have an elective c-sec but I don't want to give up now. I want to wait and see, while hoping for the best. I'm leaving to God and let Him decides what's best for me and my baby. This is my best bet.

When baby 's coming? Anytime?

Yesterday a close friend has given birth to her first baby boy, baby Lucas. Congratulations to her and her hubby!

Baby Lucas is early almost a week, as his EDD was Nov 6, a week early than my baby. Does it mean baby will come next week or...

Everyone keeps telling me anytime. But I just don't see any sign of baby's coming.

Is it going to happen or will it be another C-section again? If my water breaks first before any contraction as my gynae will not allow me to have an induction.

In about 8 hours will be my next follow-up.

I'm really don't know why can't I have a sign, during the last pregnancy was no sign at all. I was caught off guard, 2 hours before Natalie was born, I had to make up my mind whether to deliver her natural birth with induction or c-section.

I'm really not sure about this one. Really have no faith in what's going happen coz I just don't have no control over it. I feel like taking forever. Am feeling really frustrated and anxious at times. Is it normal, or just me?

Been a busy beee...

For the past 2,3 weeks I had been busy, both with work and personal life.

For work, I've been rushing to finish some work before going on my long leave starting next Wed onwards until the end of my 60 days maternity. So I only come back to work next Jan. Can't wait for that long leave, so I can spend more time with Natalie before baby's arrival, and I can spend more time on personal things like my blog.

For personal, I'm busy preparing for the baby's arrival, cleaning the baby cot, digging out Natalie's baby clothes which I think are suitable for baby, getting all the confinement herbals, vitamins, grocery, food and so on. I think my baby may come early, as early as in next two week. Meanwhile my MIL will be away for holiday from Tuesday, for 2 weeks.

Therefore I have to plan ahead, in case baby does come early as this Sunday and MIL's still away, like teaching hubby where and who to get fresh chicken, meat, veggie and gingers supply from, during confinement, how to bathe Natalie though MIL has taught the new maid to do so, but Natalie just doesn't like the new maid to bathe her or cleaning her poos, though she loves to play with the new maid. Strange huh?

It's like she is saying, "Hey, no one is allowed to touch my little backside, except my Mommy, Daddy or Granny." Oh well, I guess it's a privacy issue.

Apart from that, I've also been sorting some legal work for my dad, like applying Grand Probate for mom's will(has been delayed for some time), rewriting daddy's will (after consulted a lawyer friend, it's better to do it that way), arranging the renovation work for dad's house which happens to be nearby my in-law's place, just 2 to 5 min drive. I 've managed to convince him to move in, from his current place. It will be easier for me to take care of him. Generally, he is alright to take care of himself. But he is old and has a health problem. Somehow for the past one year, he just refused to move up till recently.

Hoping I can get the house renovation done before 2007 ends, so that my dad can move in before CNY. Then he can have a reunion dinner with us next CNY at my in-law's and spend more time with Natalie and the baby.

Sad to say, Natalie couldn't recognise him after more than 6 months not seeing him. My dad is old, and I want my kids to know him better, at least remember him. Well, as for myself, my late grandpa used to lived in Seremban, and I only got to see him once a year, while my maiden grandpa passed away a year after I was born. I have no memory of him at all.

O.k. back to me and my preparation, I have to plan ahead for all the hospital bills and confinement service payment and other expenses. Husband's a blur sotong(squid), I have to prepare a list for him to carry them out.

What happened during my last pregnancy was I had a post-partum amnesia. After delivery I somehow forgot about all ATM pins. I just couldn't remember any of them, even till now. And at that time I was in confinement and husband couldn't access to some of our funds. So this time, we have decided to bank in extra to the credit cards in advance, so he can settle whatever bills and expenses. And I can have a peaceful confinement :)

Now, the only thing that worries me is the quality of confinement lady, I'm praying for a good and helpful one. And of course a safe and smooth delivery and a healthy baby.

Please, leave my baby alone!

Was having lunch with hubby at McD. Suddenly this English-speaking Chinese uncle approached us for donation and claimed that he's a mental patient. He kept asking me to buy this Papermate pens pack from him for RM10.

I understood that one psychiatrist session is very expensive. One session can cost minimum RM50 and that doesn’t include any medication. And the medication is costly too.

Meanwhile my regular charge about RM150 to RM200 per session, without medication too, but covered by my work’s insurance.

Actually I didn't really mind donating, and was about to take some money out but when he suddenly said, “Please help me, it also helps your baby.”

I was like “What the…? What does this has to do with my baby?”
Why did you have to involve in my baby? I was really upset by what slipped his mouth. Maybe I was over-reacting but my principle is never never involves my baby.

So I decided not to buy that from him. Then he turned to my hubby. But my hubby just brushed him. Then he went to the other table, before the McD came to chase him away. But before he left, he came one last time to our table and tried his luck again. I was really pissed and just told him, "Please don't disturb me anymore."

I just don't understand, why people who ask for donation always like to play with people's mind. They will use all sort of tricks to make your feel guilt including saying things about your baby. What's wrong with them?

All I hope it’s they just leave my baby out of this sort of matter, whether I donate or not. Leave my baby alone.

Life is like that lor!

Over the past four to five years, friend after friend got pregnant. Everyone that had got married is now a mommy, including myself. In a recent gathering, in April, almost everyone brought their baby or babies to show off and I brought Natalie too.

Among us, the first to get married is now a mother of three, with the youngest aged about 3.

Since 2005, good news after good news. In the beginning of that year, friend J gave birth to a baby boy.

Then in slight more half a year later, the same friend got pregnant again, while I was two months pregnant with Natalie.

In September, another friend, gave birth to her first baby girl. In November, Vien became a mother too. In Dec, friend P became mother of two girls.

In 2006, four of us had each given birth to a baby girl during the first six months, and became new mommy. One of them's daughter, Helen, is only three days older than Natalie, and was born in the same hospital.

In the second half of 2006, two more new babies, a boy and a girl.

This year, my best friend and I both got pregnant around the same time, only one week apart. About four months later, another friend, an ex-collegue, who was actively trying for a second baby had successfully conceived.

And this morning, got another good news from Vien, that Belle is going to have a young sibling early next year. Congratulations to her!

Flashing back to 15 years ago, all of us were still some young innocent school girls. The thought of becoming mommy seemed so distant then. Our main priorities then, were probably school work, tuitions, exams, boyfriends, university issues, SPM, and so on. Having children? What children? We probably would ask.

Today, most of us are already a mother. Our priorities are different now; children, husband, work, getting pregnant again, housework, health, and so on.

Let's fast forward to 15 years later. What will become of us? Probably the same things, except that most of us would have had enough of pregnancy, while our children are already schooling.

Anyway, let 15 years later be 15 years later, meanwhile let's hope all the pregnant mommies, "Safe pregnancy, take care, eat well and safe delivery with a happy baby."

To those who is trying to conceive, "Good luck and eat well too."

And the rest who are none of the above, "Take care and he happy."